Sometimes the people we love most and, those who love us, can get into a downward spiral in our relationships. In such instances instead of love being shared, love is often being drained and eroded. How can this be? The person in question may well have been someone we could not wait to spend time…
Pleasantness: the quality of being pleasing, agreeable, or enjoyable; giving pleasure; being and feeling amiable; a sense of agreeableness. Empowerment and integration give us an internal feeling of pleasantness no matter what is happening around us. Common struggles Impatience, anger, frustration are way too common in today’s world. We often feel either ‘on edge’ or…
Do you find it hard to complete things? It may be a DIY project you started or another creative endeavor that you were super excited about. It can even be something that needs doing like your business accounts or a project with an immovable deadline. We have all been there! Something needs to be finished…
Conscious or subconscious thought patterns Mental functions can be either conscious or subconscious. The conscious mind consists of thoughts you are easily aware of. They take place when you’re awake and choose to apply purposeful attention to what is happening and what you want. The subconscious mind consists of everything else such as habits, reflexes,…
February Highly Recommended Read This month’s recommended book is Lost Connections: Why You’re Depressed and Hope to Find Hope by Johann Hari. You can watch Johann in conversation with Decca Aitkenhead, interviewer for the Guardian from a Thursday lecture at the Royal Society of Arts, Manufactures and Commerce (RSA) below. This is a beautiful, deeply…
Contemplating self-love Whether you get swept up in the red hearts and roses or decide to go against them, there is no denying it – February invites us to contemplate love and closeness in all its forms. While Western culture tends to celebrate the nobleness of giving and sharing romantic love, at its core love…
Burnout Context A few weeks ago I was on a call with one of my coaching clients – a leading academic – who was clearly unwell. Yet against the pressures of work responsibilities, demands of his team and colleagues, my suggestion that he considers taking a few days to recover was met with shock and…
While the UK Summer broke more records than most Olympics in terms of how hot this country got, the cold season has finally arrived: grey skies, frequent soggy rain, the crackle of radiators, and more tea and coffee to sip trying to feel a warmth from the inside that warm socks in my drawers. I…
The mind comes in a body and every body has a mind Integrative stress management starts from the fact that the mind is located within and connected to the physical body. Just as the mind has a body to experience life with, the body has a mind or felt sense to collect and register experiences.…
For many people the media and emphasis on romance through chocolate hearts and red roses can make some feel sad and alone. And yet in life we are all essentially alone partnered or not. We have a unique experience. We choose what we think. So whether you’re partnered or not, it is your choice to see yourself as lovable, special, worthwhile and amazing. You are that!