Sometimes the people we love most and, those who love us, can get into a downward spiral in our relationships. In such instances instead of love being shared, love is often being drained and eroded. How can this be? The person in question may well have been someone we could not wait to spend time…
Pleasantness: the quality of being pleasing, agreeable, or enjoyable; giving pleasure; being and feeling amiable; a sense of agreeableness. Empowerment and integration give us an internal feeling of pleasantness no matter what is happening around us. Common struggles Impatience, anger, frustration are way too common in today’s world. We often feel either ‘on edge’ or…
Conscious or subconscious thought patterns Mental functions can be either conscious or subconscious. The conscious mind consists of thoughts you are easily aware of. They take place when you’re awake and choose to apply purposeful attention to what is happening and what you want. The subconscious mind consists of everything else such as habits, reflexes,…
February Highly Recommended Read This month’s recommended book is Lost Connections: Why You’re Depressed and Hope to Find Hope by Johann Hari. You can watch Johann in conversation with Decca Aitkenhead, interviewer for the Guardian from a Thursday lecture at the Royal Society of Arts, Manufactures and Commerce (RSA) below. This is a beautiful, deeply…
Contemplating self-love Whether you get swept up in the red hearts and roses or decide to go against them, there is no denying it – February invites us to contemplate love and closeness in all its forms. While Western culture tends to celebrate the nobleness of giving and sharing romantic love, at its core love…
While the UK Summer broke more records than most Olympics in terms of how hot this country got, the cold season has finally arrived: grey skies, frequent soggy rain, the crackle of radiators, and more tea and coffee to sip trying to feel a warmth from the inside that warm socks in my drawers. I…
Ever wondered what it’s like to be a coach? Have a listen to this podcast interview where we discuss the challenges and joys of integrating different areas of practice,
I’ve been asked my by colleague and friend Kenneth Clifford to contribute to his blog and the Portsmouth counselling practice with a series of blogs on either neuroscience or anxiety. You can see I chose something far more practical. 4-5 people in my annual leadership programme of 40 candidates faces and struggles with anxiety in…
“Serendipity. Look for something, find something else, and realize that what you’ve found is more suited to your needs than what you thought you were looking for.” – Lawrence Block Needs are things that are either essential or very important for healthy life. For example as an organism, humans need oxygen to breathe, live and…
This is the TEDx talk I gave in February 2013 for TedX organised by Lisa Jacob. First, a big thanks to all those helping her our on the day to make us feel so welcomed and to the technical specialists behind this video which looks fab. Thank you! If you like the talk please share…